What He Must Be by Voddie T. Baucham Jr. (ISBN:1581349300)

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		What He Must Be: ...If He Wants to Marry My Daughter
	
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			Voddie T. Baucham Jr.		
	
All parents want their daughters to marry godly young men.  But which qualities, specifically, should they be looking  for?  What will you say when...more
 All parents want their daughters to marry godly young men.  But which qualities, specifically, should they be looking  for?  What will you say when that certain young man sits down in your  living room, sweaty-palmed and tongue-tied, and asks your  permission to marry your daughter? What criteria should he meet  before the two of them join together for life? What He Must Be  . . . If He Wants to Marry My Daughter outlines ten qualities  parents should look for in a son-in-law, including trustworthiness,  a willingness to lead his family, an understanding of his wife's  role, and various spiritual leadership qualities.  Author Voddie Baucham follows up on his popular book Family  Driven Faith with this compelling apologetic of biblical  manhood. By studying the principles outlined in his book, parents  who want their daughter to marry a godly man-as well as those who  want their sons to become godly men-will be well equipped to help  their children look for and develop these God-honoring  qualities.   less

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
This is a great book that every husband and father should read.  Whether you have a son, a daughter, both, or no children yet this will be a beneficial book.  Men need to be the spiritual leader in the home and Voddie lays out what this should look like to apply to yourself, your son, and a potential suitor for your daughter.

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
So far this is an awesome book.  Great for me as a father to be reminded what I am to be. It is a great tool to use in teaching my daughters what to look for in and what I am to teach my son to be as a husband.

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
Back in the day, as young Christians we were instructed to be sure to marry only a Christian...a few years later the admonition would be to marry a growing Christian...While this is good it certainly falls short of what is truly necessary for a God honoring, successful marriage and family. So the dilemma we have as adults is guiding our children through what has become acceptable in Christian...more
 Back in the day, as young Christians we were instructed to be sure to marry only a Christian...a few years later the admonition would be to marry a growing Christian...While this is good it certainly falls short of what is truly necessary for a God honoring, successful marriage and family. So the dilemma we have as adults is guiding our children through what has become acceptable in Christian churches today and to what is truly Biblical.

This book is just what every parent needs long before their children are ready for marriage...we need to be embracing their training and preparation from the earliest years as it will go against much of accepted society's ideas, and much of what the church has settled for as well. 

It is excellent for parents of sons and daughters, as well as the parents themselves who must first model these Biblical roles...it's never too late for any of us to learn. 

This book is a very enjoyable read, challenging ideas and solutions to make the changes outlined. I highly recommend it.   hide

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
Great book, especially for dads. The book speaks to a fathers' responsibilities before God to protect his daughters and to raise up godly young men for the godly young ladies in other men's families.

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
Wonderful book.  A must read for all fathers. (mothers too)

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
A fantastic study of biblical manhood from the viewpoint of a father.

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
Awesome book.  A must read if you have a son or a daughter!

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							A Reader
						
							few weeks ago						
The title on this book is a bit deceiving.  I don't know if I ever would have read the book if my children were all boys.  I figured it'd be a good read because we have a daughter.  But in addition to pointing out what parents should look for in a future husband for their daughters, it also makes the point that parents need to instill these same qualities in their sons so their sons will...more
 The title on this book is a bit deceiving.  I don't know if I ever would have read the book if my children were all boys.  I figured it'd be a good read because we have a daughter.  But in addition to pointing out what parents should look for in a future husband for their daughters, it also makes the point that parents need to instill these same qualities in their sons so their sons will be prepared to be godly husbands.

In addition to being a good read for parents, I think it'd be a good read for any young person of marrying age, especially young women.  This book outlines characteristics of men who would be good marriage material.

I think this book would also be good for husbands to read, as it would cause them to look at their own marriage and improve on it.  (After all, there's always room for improvement in any marriage!)

So, basically, this book is for everyone!

Having said all that, what is the book really about?  Well, the author makes the point that parents need to help their daughters find godly spouses.  We can't just send our daughters off into the world hoping that they bring back a "good one."  We need to help them be selective.  We need to teach them what to look for, and we need to surround ourselves with godly young men.  We need to constantly be looking for godly men, not just because they might be "the one" for our daughters, but because we need to encourage them to grow as godly men.  (Especially in the day and age in which we live!)  Voddie Baucham is not encouraging arranged marriages at all. 

So, what are parents to look for?  Having read the book a few weeks ago, these are the qualities that stuck with me: He must be a Christian.  (And the book goes into detail about how to discern each of these qualities.)  

He must also be a prophet, priest, protector, and provider.  In other words, a suitor must be able to teach his wife (and children, if the Lord so blesses) about the things of the Lord.  He must be able to lead family worship and devotional time.  He must protect his wife (and children).  And he must provide for their needs.  In other words, he's got to have a strong work ethic.  (Not to be confused with being a work-a-holic.)  

Another point made in the book is that a future husband has to have a desire for children.  Too many young men and women have no desire for children, which are indeed a blessing of the Lord.

This is a wonderful book, one that I'm sure will bless many families, regardless of whether they have sons or daughters or both.   hide

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