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What are readers saying about The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Relationships)?
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A Reader posted a review at 2007-12-21 07:22:37.
(Language: English)
  
Having yet to be married, I initially hesitated when a friend told me I should read it; however, I soon found it difficult to put down. The book, while it is mainly geared toward married couples, can and should be utilized by dating couples, and singles as well. The book is easy to read and understand (I only found myself thumbing through the dictionary a few times) as compared to other relationship-topic books. Mr. Chapman provides many real-life examples of couples and the problems they are facing. Having worked as a sociologist and an anthropologist (among a host of other areas), he understands human behavior and human tendencies...and most importantly, that each individual has their own specific needs (i.e. the five love languages). Whether you are in a failing marriage, newly weds, dating, or single...you will find this book informative and helpful. Not only can it help you recover from a marital disaster, but it can help you mitigate one. 
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A Reader posted a review at 2011-02-02 12:05:46.
(Language: English)
I suggest everyone read this book! It will make many things fall into place, even is you're currently mateless this will help you prepare.
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A Reader posted a review at 2008-06-04 12:44:53.
(Language: English)
This taught me a lot about what went wrong in my past relationships, and also a lot about myself. The book is totally cheesy, and directed towards married people, but the principles hold true in all relationships- even relationships you may have with kids! (There is a book out 'The Five Love Languages of Children' that I would be interested in reading). Everyone has one or more of these love languages! I have been able to understand my friends and familys expectations of me, and I have been able to communicate how I need to be loved by my friends and family in a way I never have before.
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Michael posted a review at 2010-08-01 05:58:03.
(Language: English)
Excellent both partners should read!
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-12-22 08:07:56.
(Language: English)
This book is a wonderful way to see relationships.. between couples, families, parent/child, employer/employee. Basically, it breaks down how to communicate (5 basic methods) so the other person will receive you... not forcing the receiver to change their methods. In theory, if/when both parties understand each others communication method(s), the relationship becomes more fulfilling. We did not read this book from front to back, but rather randomly picked chapters/pages as they interested us... and it kept our attention very well. We also liked how it's ok to have more than one language, but one will, at any given time, be the most effective of all. A good book for all folks to read.
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A Reader posted a review at 2010-08-04 04:50:13.
(Language: English)
Very good book, very enlightening...give you a total new view, makes you more sensitive towards others.
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-03-17 02:42:41.
(Language: English)
This is a great book to help people learn to express as well as feel loved by those around them. It can be tough to be in a relationship with someone that does not have the same love language as yourself. Understanding them can go a long way to making things easier though. In case you are curious my husband and I are both physical for our top language. After that we are not the same. He is big on words, and I am big on gifts to show love. We have read this book, and also have been together long enough to understand each other though. Anyone interested in people/relationships should read this book.
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-05-03 11:26:46.
(Language: English)
A good, simple book for understanding daily interactions between people both in friendships and relationships. I've had a lot of insights from reading it. Downside is it could create co-dependence and doesn't address deeper issues of real/spiritual love; but hey, we have to live in the world and get along with each other and this creates some thoughts to think about. I could see it saving some marriages.
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A Reader posted a review at 2010-09-23 06:21:33.
(Language: English)
It is awesome!!
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A Reader posted a review at 2011-01-25 08:10:29.
(Language: English)
This book did amazing things for my marriage. It isn't that our marriage was on the rocks or struggling, because that was not the case. We both were showing each other love, but we weren't speaking each others language. Since reading the book and learning more about my wife, and her doing the same about me, our marriage is sooo much better. Our love tanks are full.
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A Reader posted a review at 2011-12-28 10:17:27.
(Language: English)
I may change this to a 5-star rating after I try living the "Five Love Languages." Its a simple concept; one that people can understand and implement. Learn the love language that you respond to, learn the love language of those you are in a relationship respond to, and apply. The end result can bring quality of life to a whole new level. For this reason, anyone who is interested in living a better life should read it. While focussing on marital relationships, the "Five Love Languages" can work for many more: parent-child, dating, friendship, co-worker... Its easy to read and follow, and its not long; less than 200 pages. There are FAQs and quizzes in the back of the book to help identify your and your partner's love language. A friend recommended this book to me. Obviously, I recommend this book to others. I've already passed it on to my husband and have suggested it to a friend.
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Viero posted a review at 2009-03-05 12:55:40.
(Language: English)
And who are "they"? The many people in my life that have helped to strengthen and encourage me in my walk with Christ. The book is written by an author who professes his faith in Jesus, but the style is written in a way that makes it applicable to virtually anyone wanting to improve their relationships with their spouse (or boy-/girlfriend, fiancé/e, etc.). I recommend this book to be read a chapter a week and with the free, downloadable study guide from the website. Great for group studies or to read it along with your significant other. Chapman definitely challenged the way I communicate to my soon-to-be fiancée, and though I'm still working on it, I can feel the transformation take place when I make attempts to communicate her love language. It's also great to read as a single, as everyone inherits a love language in some form or another.
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-05-31 07:20:58.
(Language: English)
This book is for anyone who has ever been/wants to be in true "fallin head over heels in love". It allows you to know your partner even better than you think you already do. HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS READ...especially if you are engaged, as it will enrich your relationship to the furthest extent it has ever been. My now wife and I read this while we were engaged as part of our marriage preparation regiment (self imposed I might add!). Anything worthwile takes work, and with this as part of your perverbial workout regiment, you will learn more, live more, and feel more than you ever thought possible! With that being said, this book and our education from it (along with prayer) is solely responsible for taking "lovers tiffs" to an almost non-existent level. WORTH EVERY PENNY, and I thank God at least on a weekly basis for creating Gary Chapman to publish this and to offer a kind knowing ear to the most intimate portions of anyone's relationship... "Matters of the heart".
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-04-04 06:29:41.
(Language: English)
I would have to say i really agree with most of the reviews; I've read it like three years ago and uptill now i still memorize the way he held the real life examples during the book.. and for me the most enjoyable part was the first one narrating about the "love tank" issue for each child and how simple things of concern, love, compassion & care in a family can decide the fate of growing up children around the house.. i usually don't recommend many of the self improvement and phsycological books but some are really held quite simple, real and motivating...and that book was really a one :)
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A Reader posted a review at 2010-03-29 09:42:20.
(Language: Spanish)
Excelente, se lo recomiendo a todas las parejas, ya sean de amigos, novios o esposos que esten pasando por un momento dificil en su relacion, para que de una manera practica entiendan y reorienten la forma en que expresan el amor, a esos seres queridos pero que estan alejando en la forma en que los estan tratando. Exelente libro.
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A Reader posted a review at 2008-06-24 08:49:49.
(Language: English)
As many who have been involved in any intimate and serious relationships would attest, one ofthe greatest challenges to any relationship is communication. The book discusses the fact that our inability to communicate effectively with our loved-ones is due to the difference in our love languages. The author identifies five major love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. The book talks about by identifying our love language (and our partners'), how we can communicate more effectively, keep our "love tank" constantly filled, and lead a more fulfilled love life. Excellent book.
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-01-30 02:18:38.
(Language: English)
An almost scientific analysis of the dynamics in interpersonal relationships by a man whose career was based on marriage counseling. The main thesis is that people have one of five basic ways to give and receive love that are intrinsic to who they are. Identifying these needs in yourself and your mate followed by making the commitment to provide them is his mechanism for success. It has plenty of counter examples of failing marriages and his approach to fixing them. The book was hard for me to find because it is shelved in the Christian section. That being said, there are few references to religious matters until the end of the book. Its worth looking past those elements if they bother you because the secular value of the book stands on its own. This book, along with Shadow Syndromes by J. Ratey, changed my perception of people and relationships for good and for the better.
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A Reader posted a review at 2010-10-02 09:32:14.
(Language: English)
Everyone should read this book. Married, single, dating, parenting, growing up. This is a concept you need to understand. Other than the Bible, this book changed me more than any other. It affected and continues to affect every relationship I have - at home, at church, at work, with family, and with friends. It's powerful. Read it. Period.
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Carmen posted a review at 2009-08-20 02:04:02.
(Language: English)
About the different ways we are 'socialised' to communicate love. In an attempt to answer the question: "What happens to love after the wedding?" Chapman argues that couples do not fall 'out of love', they find it difficult to 'communicate' love. Basically he holds that 5 main love languages exist, although we might use different 'dialects'. If you express love by using a particular love language your partner do not understand then your partner will not 'feel' loved - leading to a breakdown in communication and the relationship. The book offers selfhelp tools to identify your own love language and that of your partner and provides practical steps in learning the love language of your partner.
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-07-02 07:45:36.
(Language: English)
Simple advice on communication. Understanding the love languages is so simple and essential for a good relationship yet it seems to elude most of us. I guarantee this book could save most marriages that end up in divorce, if only they had taken the time to read it. No matter what stage in life or in marriage, this book is a must read. Can't stress it enough. There are other great books on marriage and communication, this just happens to be one we read (with a great teacher helping us along). Read it and pass it on.
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A Reader posted a review at 2007-08-22 08:47:32.
(Language: English)
as usual, the girls were right. this was not nearly as trite, campy, or ok fine - ghey - as i thought it would be. naturally, some of it was ("love tank" ? really?) but the actual premise... well, i thought it was kind of great (yes, i'm surprised as well). in less than 2 hours you will learn more about yourself in relationships than you ever will surfing facebook or watching talledega nights for the 15th time. buying copies for my brother & gf's. it is my personal belief that forcing/guilting a bf into reading a book with "LOVE and HEARTFELT" on the cover consitutes cruel & unusual punishment.
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-09-18 11:26:10.
(Language: English)
Chapman speaks to the committed. Often times we get into a nether-regions of resistance in a relationship with no clear path out of the quagmire that is our story. This is one of the first books I’ve read that unabashedly charts this territory. If you’re looking to freshen up your relationship with anyone, including your partner in joy, this book will give you options. I appreciated this book.
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A Reader posted a review at 2009-11-06 02:32:24.
(Language: English)
Written mostly for married couples but it doesn't hurt for you to learn what he talks about while single, and might actually help. You can apply the love languages to anyone you want to feel loved. I was able to guess what some of my closest family and friends languages were though I'm still not sure what mine is. It was worth reading.
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A Reader posted a review at 2008-08-09 08:37:10.
(Language: English)
I read that book trying to safe my marriage. What I learned is that you can't change a person that is not willing to go through that process with you. Reason being, I wasn't worth it to my ex husband after 16 years of marriage. He filed for divorce out of the blue from Iraq. He has been very selfish over the years, Dr. Gary Chapman revealed to me through his book that my ex doesn't know anything about love, commitment, or being faithful. He wants to be a ladies man and admired by women that aren't aware of the fact that he is not capable of sticking with anything. I recommend this book to anyone that has troubles in their marriage or partnership, even after divorce, it will be a great resource for your future relationships by learning of what to look for and what is truly important in life. Some people will die lonely not ever being able to love or be loved in return since they do not know the meaning of what love is.
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A Reader posted a review at 2007-06-17 02:21:25.
(Language: English)
posted at crossn81.blogspot.com We began reading this book shortly after our honeymoon. Everything was going great until this quote in chapter 3 (pg 30-31): Eventually, however, we all descend from the clouds and plant our feet on earth again. Our eyes are opened, and we see the warts of the other person. We recognize that some of his/her personality traits are actually irritating. Her behavior patterns are annoying. ... Those little traits we overlooked when we were in love now become huge mountains." Not the best reading for a couple still very much in "euphoric love." But as we continued to read through this short book, it became powerful as we saw ourselves in the stories and ultimately identified our individual "love languages." Gary Chapman uses stories from his many years of marriage counseling to drive home his point that marriage requires work, and that if we want a long lasting marriage we need to do what makes our spouse happy. He simplified the multitude of things that can make our spouses and ourselves happy into 5 phrases or love languages: * Quality Time * Words of Affirmation * Gifts * Acts of Service * Physical Touch I would recommend this book to any couple (with the above caveat about newlyweds) and encourage you to dialogue, understand your love languages, and begin working to meet those languages!! Finally, from the back cover: He sends you flowers when what you really want is time to talk. She gives you a hug when what you really need is a home-cooked meal. The problem isn't your love-it's your love language! Dr Chapman has expanded upon this best-seller and created a whole "series" of love language books. I would speculate that they are all similar ideas and we actually spent some time contemplating the love languages of our nuclear family, so maybe we can love them better too! More information can be found by visiting their website. PS My primary love language is Acts of Service and hers is Quality Time!
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